The Survivors Tool Kit
             help guide

Still Standing: The Survivor’s Toolkit is a calm, practical guide for adults navigating the aftermath of emotional, psychological, and controlling relationships.

Written with a trauma-aware approach, this book helps readers recognise patterns of abuse, understand power and control dynamics, and rebuild clarity, safety, and self-trust — without pressure, labels, or sensationalism.

Covering topics such as:

• The cycle of abuse

• Power and control tactics

• Boundaries when control is present

• Safety planning and strategic distance

• Communication when power is imbalanced

• Parenting and protecting children

• Healing while contact continues

this toolkit is designed for people who may still be in contact with an ex-partner, co-parenting, or navigating complex ongoing dynamics.

This is not a memoir, a diagnosis, or a set of instructions. It is a grounded companion for those who want understanding without judgement, and support without urgency.

You do not need to read this book in order. Take what helps. Leave what doesn’t.
Clarity grows at your own pace.

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